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My Hair Tells of Me

My Hair Tells of Me

It’s 2020, and the breaking news around the world is about Covid-19, the lives it’s taking, and the ones it’s yet to claim. The pandemic, or “The ‘Rona”, as nicknamed by black people, is disruptive - nothing is the same. Nita, a young city worker, isn’t immune to the impact of The ‘Rona - she’s barely coping, and evidence of her struggle is reflected in her appearance, specifically with her hair. However, on 4 July 2020, restrictions on hair salons have eased in the UK, and Nita has courageously booked an appointment at “Heritage Style - Natural Hair & Beauty Salon” for the same day. Could this be Nita’s chance for change? Will she get more than she paid for? Follow Nita on her brave journey as she narrates her appointment with Miss Heritage.

All Posts, StoriesOlayideM12 January 2022Love, Fiction, Covid-19, Lockdown, Anxiety, Hair Salons, Natural Hair, Therapy, Matted Hair, Depression, Family, Daughter and MotherComment

Oru Mu: Sunrise - II

Oru Mu: Sunrise - II

The week seems to be getting worse for Bola, bad news after bad news, she even concludes that she's had a part to play, after all it's always been her fault, right?

Bola is tired physically, mentally and spiritually and now, with everything going on she feels like God has her on a wild goose-chase around Lagos. She hates that the 'chase' has brought her back to the home where all her troubles started.

Will it ever end?

Oru Mu is the Yoruba phrase for “it’s hot” - the heat of Midday has passed and the dimness of the Sun Setting has overwhelmed Bola, will she ever get to rest to see the Sunrise?

All Posts, StoriesOlayideM4 August 2020Love, Family, Motherhood, Mothers, Parents, Infertility, Pregnancy, Sex, Marriage, Nigeria, London, Peace, Physical Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Psychological Abuse, Frienship, False Teachers, Bad Friends, Hannah, Samuel, Scripture, Bible, Inspiration, Holy Spirit, God, Jesus, Gifts, Children, Baby Comments

Oru Mu: Sunrise - I

Oru Mu: Sunrise - I

The week seems to be getting worse for Bola, bad news after bad news, she even concludes that she's had a part to play, after all it's always been her fault, right?

Bola is tired physically, mentally and spiritually and now, with everything going on she feels like God has her on a wild goose-chase around Lagos. She hates that the 'chase' has brought her back to the home where all her troubles started.

Will it ever end?

Oru Mu is the Yoruba phrase for “it’s hot” - the heat of Midday has passed and the dimness of the Sun Setting has overwhelmed Bola, will she ever get to rest to see the Sunrise?

All Posts, StoriesOlayideM4 August 2020Love, Family, Motherhood, Mothers, Parents, Infertility, Pregnancy, Sex, Marriage, Nigeria, London, Peace, Physical Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Psychological Abuse, Frienship, False Teachers, Bad Friends, Hannah, Samuel, Scripture, Bible, Inspiration, Holy Spirit, God, Jesus, Gifts, Children, BabyComment

Oru Mu: Sunset

Oru Mu: Sunset

It’s been a crazy week for Bola! First, her super star friend, Sharon shows up with a revelation, followed by her ‘moment’ with Prophet Godwin. It doesn’t help that Duro isn’t saying the right things either - so she thinks.

Bola doesn’t know what to make of the past few days, but she can’t help but feel like more is coming. Truthfully, Bola doesn’t know how much more she can take.

The perfect life she envisioned for herself is crumbling right before her eyes, and it seems like everywhere she looks she is reminded of what she doesn’t have.

Oru Mu is the Yoruba phrase for “it’s hot” - however what will Bola do should the Sun eventually Set on her desires? Who will she run to when it gets dark?

All Posts, StoriesOlayideM17 June 2020Love, Family, Motherhood, Mothers, Parents, Infertility, Pregnancy, Sex, Marriage, Nigeria, London, Peace, Physical Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Psychological Abuse, Frienship, False Teachers, Bad Friends, Hannah, Samuel, Scripture, Bible, Inspiration, Holy Spirit, God, Jesus, Gifts, Children, Baby Comments

Oru Mu: Midday

Oru Mu: Midday

At the top of her game, the God-fearing Bola Ifetomi is the person everyone wants to know - she's connected and successful, all this despite her unfavourable upbringing. Not only is her career thriving, she’s been married to the best of the best - Duro Ifetomi, for five years. Bola has the perfect life, she has it all!

But Bola doesn't believe so - she thinks her life is incomplete and imperfect, how long must she wait? Just like her upbringing, everybody she knows has something she wants, it’s almost teasing.

Oru Mu is the Yoruba phrase for “it’s hot” - will Bola be able to withstand the sudden heat when her perfect life begins to show imperfect lines?

How far will Bola go to obtain what she wants most and at what cost?

All Posts, StoriesOlayideM31 May 2020Love, Family, Motherhood, Mothers, Parents, Infertility, Pregnancy, Sex, Marriage, Nigeria, London, Peace, Physical Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Psychological Abuse, Frienship, False Teachers, Bad Friends, Hannah, Samuel, Scripture, Bible, Inspiration, Holy Spirit, God, Jesus, Gifts, Children, Baby Comments

Don't Pity Me Because I'm Single - RELOADED

Don't Pity Me Because I'm Single - RELOADED

One thing I’m ever so tired of is the belief that single people are incomplete. I don’t think that of myself and nobody else should.

Life for me is especially good right now.

All Posts, Real LifeOlayideM23 August 2018Bible, Biblical, Boo, Boyfriend, Celebrate, Chapter 7, Christ, Corinthians, Encourage, Endurance, Faith, False, Family, Friends, Gangan, Girlfriend, God, Honour, Husband, Love, Marriage, Married, Paul, People, Prayer, Pressure, Rejoice, Relationships, Single, Singleness, Struggle, Triumph, True, WifeComment

Sometimes, I Tie Gélé - II

Sometimes, I Tie Gélé - II

Sometimes, I Tie Gélé is a story about identity, insecurities and the need to belong. We follow Sophie "Soso" Badmus on her personal quest to make sense of these things.

Sophie is experiencing the stages of life through the discussions she’s had so far, Birth, Accomplishments and Marriage. Now she learns about herself through the celebration of Life, both for the living and the dead.

Sometimes, I Tie Gélé - I

Sometimes, I Tie Gélé - I

Sometimes, I Tie Gélé is a story about identity, insecurities and the need to belong. We follow Sophie "Soso" Badmus on her personal quest to make sense of these things.

In order to start her journey Sophie knows she must first talk to those she loves, Mayowa, Doyinsola & Taraoluwa.

The Wedding Guest - II

The Wedding Guest - II

It’s been a tough year for Segun since “The Incident” at Chidi & Morayo’s wedding last year, and although Segun has come to know Christ, his year has been turbulent still. Back in Nigeria for his cousin, Adeiye Adetide-Cole’s wedding, Segun is having to confront all his fears - the ones he knew of and the ones he’d soon discover. Is there any hope for Segun? Will he ever live up to his name?

Community

Community

All Posts, Real LifeOlayideM13 July 2017Advice, Care, Comfort, Community, Cry, Family, Friends, Friendship, God, Happiness, Help, Holy Spirit, Honesty, Intentional Relationships, Jesus, Joy, Laughter, Life, Peace, Relationship, Reprimand, Shoulder to Cry on, VillageComment

You Have Nothing to Celebrate Because You're 28+ and Single...

You Have Nothing to Celebrate Because You're 28+ and Single...

Don't let anyone make you feel unaccomplished because you are single, BUT accomplish much as a single person. Make memories, gain experiences and much more! Be active in your “wait” especially by seeking God before all else, any journey with God is an amazing journey.

All Posts, Real LifeOlayideM11 May 2017Bible, Biblical, Boo, Boyfriend, Celebrate, Chapter 7, Christ, Corinthians, Encourage, Endurance, Faith, False, Family, Friends, Gangan, Girlfriend, God, Honour, Husband, Love, Marriage, Married, Paul, People, Prayer, Pressure, Rejoice, Relationships, Single, Singleness, Struggle, Triumph, True, WifeComment

The Wedding Guest - I

The Wedding Guest - I

His ego would not let him say no to her. The whole night they had teased and flirted with each other it was bound to happen with the way she commanded his attention as she swayed her hips to every rhythm and beat that blared out of the banquet hall speakers. He wanted her. What he did not know was that this was all a part of her plan.

All Posts, StoriesOlayideM5 January 2017Adultery, Alcohol, Bella Naija, BellaNaija, Bouquet, Bridal Party, Bride, Bride And Groom, Bridemaids, Christ, Christian, Church, Couples, Dance Battles, Dance Floor, False Words, Family, fashion, Fathers, Featured, Flowers, Food, God, Green With Envy, Groom, Groomsmen, Husband, Immoral Woman, Jesus, Jollof Rice, Love, Lust, Maid of Honour, Marital, Marriage, Mothers, Nigerian Weddings, Parents, Pray, Prayer, Proverbs, Schemer, Sex, Single People, Small Chops, Trap, Wedding, Wedding Cake, Weddings, Wife, Wisdom, Wise Words, Writing Comments

In Conclusion

In conclusion I am choosing to walk hand-in-hand with God and His purpose for my life. I am choosing, with His help, that in the coming year and years to come, I will start each day with my conclusion - my introduction and middle will eventually write themselves.

All Posts, Real LifeOlayideM22 December 2016Aspirations, Blog, Blogger, brothers, Children, Christ, Concluding, Cousins, Death, Divorce, Dreams, DXB, Events, Facebook, Faith, Family, Food, Friends, Goals, God, Good Times, Hard Times, instagram, Investing, Jesus, Joy, kenya, Laughter, Life, LinkedIn, Love, Marriage, money, Moving, Music, Nephews, Nieces, Parents, Relationship, Scared, Siblings, Singleness, Social Media, Struggle, Tears, Travelling, Trust, UAE, UK, USA, Weddings, WordPress, WritingComment

No New Friends

No New Friends

I've been in Dubai for exactly three months now! I wrote this [very honest] piece a few days ago because I was having a moment. I find regularly, that my moments always end with hope.
Three months later and I have concluded...
To know that nothing can surprise God is a celebration on its own.
#Confident.

All Posts, Real LifeOlayideM20 October 2016African, Amen, Bible, Black, Black Woman, Comforting, Conversations, Drake, Dubai, Emotional, Family, Featured, Friends, God, Happiness, Holiday, Ikea, London, Loneliness, Lonely, Love, Missed, Move, New Country, Phones, Prayer, Psalms, Relocate, Sad, Talking, Tears, Thoughts, Travel, UAE, UK, Vacation, WritingComment

Still

Still

All Posts, Real LifeOlayideM16 June 2016Breathe, Creation, Faith, Family, Friends, God, Overwhelmed, Sister, Small Chops, TrustComment

The Bakerloo Line - Part II: Charing Cross

The Bakerloo Line - Part II: Charing Cross

He misplaced love, and he wish nothing more than to have her love again. Will she show up so they could talk? If she didn’t show up, he couldn’t blame her. Anxious and nervous, he remembers the words spoken to him as a child, this was the worst time to remember such moments.

All Posts, StoriesOlayideM23 February 2016Carefree, Children, Christ, Control, Creative Writing, Daughters, Family, Fathers, Friends, God, Healing, Holy Spirit, Hurt, Love, Relationships, Scared, Short Stories, TFL, Trains, Tubes, upbringing, Visual, Waiting, YoungComment

The Bakerloo Line - Part I: Oxford Circus

The Bakerloo Line - Part I: Oxford Circus

Love was lost once, could it be found again? Could she forgive? Anxious and nervous, she remembers the words spoken to her as a child, they couldn’t have come at a better time.

All Posts, StoriesOlayideM8 February 2016Carefree, Children, Christ, Control, Creative Writing, Daughters, Family, Fathers, Friends, God, Healing, Holy Spirit, Hurt, Love, Relationships, Scared, Short Stories, TFL, Trains, Tubes, upbringing, Visual, Waiting, YoungComment

Don't Pity Me Because I'm Single

Don't Pity Me Because I'm Single

Singleness has for so long been considered a taboo after a certain age especially as a young woman. Understandably, people care and want the best for you, however there are times when their cares turn to worry causing one to feel pressurised - a very uncomfortable feeling. Both singleness and marriage are gifts from God.

All Posts, Real LifeOlayideM6 November 2014Bible, Biblical, Boo, Boyfriend, CCF, Celebrate, Chapter 7, Christ, Christ Crucified Fellowship NYC, Corinthians, Encourage, Endurance, Faith, False, Family, Friends, Gangan, Girlfriend, God, Honour, Husband, Love, Marriage, Married, Paul, People, Prayer, Pressure, Rejoice, Relationships, Single, Singleness, Struggle, Triumph, True, WifeComment